Let go. According to Not only Barcelona (from now on N.O.B.) people needed a new word, so we created it: Letgo.
In this part of the world, the extremely consumerist one, we were never taught to letgo anything or anybody, even when we have no other choice.
a) What happens when a relationship ends (because sometimes they just end, without any particular reason behind it)?
99% of those who are left behind, instead of letting go, attach themselves, even promising they would change (and why should they?). Instead of thinking that maybe there is a reason behind it, that maybe they are headed in another direction, they attach themselves to their loved one. There is no form of letgo possible. They don’t letgo and they don’t accept that it has ended.
b) What happens when we get fired from a job that maybe does not even satisfy us any more, creating a void, a safe escape and/or an opening to do what we really like/want to do? We complain! Of course, there are family to provide for but you can do a lot with a little bit of frugality and “more”. You can change, even with a family. The stories of people who did it are easy to find nowadays, just read and do a little research. The most common reaction, by the way, is the complaint, if not the victim complex. The less we letgo, the more we remain stuck and we create, more often than not, a huge mess inside and outside of us.
c) What happens when one of our dearly beloved passes away, and we know we will never see him/her again? Darkness, confusion, depression because we have been taught to attach ourselves, physically and mentally, to other people. We don’t letgo. We can not, mostly in this part of the world (aka in western countries). In Asia, f. e., the concept of attachment to the body is understood and processed differently. The same happens in South America. A very well known example is the Dia de los muertos in Mexico, which is seen as a celebration of life (and not of death). It’s a real celebration and it often takes place in cemeteries.
Important note: everything we don’t letgo in this life is left for the people coming after us, not necessarily our children. A huge display of altruism, towards ourselves and others, is to letgo to allow what we believe is GOOD to enter. It’s not just N. O. B., even the science of psycho-genealogy, finally studied in some prestigious universities, says the same.
What is the solution for scenario a), b) and c)? LETGO
When you manage to do it, a void is created. Economists call it gap and believe it’s a sign of prosperity showing the right direction to follow in order to create something good. The same rules apply to our lives. When it comes to money we’re all very attentive, but when it comes to our day to day life we hide our head under the sand, even if it burns. The more you refuse to letgo, the bigger your uncertainty, confusion, loss, weakness will become and this energy is important for you: it helps you believing in yourself and reaching your goals. When you letgo, you are left with a void that you can fill up with what you really want. You start becoming part of your own continuum, you go deeper, to the core and things start to move as you wish them to.
Often we don’t letgo because we’re afraid of being alone. Alone after a break-up, alone after having lost our job, alone because one of our loved ones passed. When you start experiencing the letgo you realise, little by little, that you’re not and never will be alone, that there are people approaching you in unexpected moments of your life, transmitting you their warmth. You will create your own “job”, step by step, and you will still experience the voice or the smell of your loved ones again, just in new unexpected contexts.
The LETGO bag is the tool that allows you to challenge yourself, to test how much you can letgo in order to arrive nearer to your own idea of happiness. An exercise, the exchange of the bag and the notebook, that will link you to other people who already embrace this philosophy.
How can you exchange the Bag?
Go on the website and look for “La Famiglia delle Borse che LascianoAndare in viaggio”. Based on the surname, the first suggested trip, what they wish to letgo, the current residence you can choose your exchange partner. Write an email to N. O. B. (firstname.lastname@example.org) and create a connection, the so called click.
The bag can be shipped by post, you can go meet your exchange partner where they live or choose another meeting point. The possibilities are endless, just like in every other aspect of our lives, if we believe in it and we want to.